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“When I think about my best parenting moments, ‘gentle’ is just so far down the list of how I would describe myself”
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“When I think about my best parenting moments, ‘gentle’ is just so far down the list of how I would describe myself”

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We need to get into gentle parenting.

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I believe we have to let kids know their feelings are real and kids' feelings cannot dictate parental decisions and world realities. Learning how to tolerate things not going your way, learning how to tolerate disappointment, learning how to tolerate jealousy, these are the skills of life, and you can't develop skills for experiences you've never had. So if every time you feel a feeling, your parent gives you an exit ramp, you're going to expect the world to give you exit ramps.},{"type": "spoken",text": "Talking about being a sturdy parent.},{"type": "spoken",text": "Yes.},{"type": "spoken",text": "I know that you have kind of used this like pilot metaphor before.},{"type": "spoken",text": "Imagine being a passenger, and there's intense turbulence. Like, not normal, really intense turbulence. I think in that situation, let's say you, the other passengers, are kind of screaming, you're nervous. I think there's one of three announcements that could come on from the pilot. 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First of all, I'd be thrown off that my screaming is enough to make my pilot unnerved. I also, if my pilot says, it's not even big turbulence, if I felt like it was, I'd be like, well, it, maybe it is, like, are you missing something? So that's pilot one, not so good. Pilot two is kind of the opposite extreme, which is, hey guys, there's a lot of turbulence. I'm going to open up the cockpit doors. If anyone back there wants to come and fly the plane because this is a really tricky situation, and maybe one of you knows what to do. This is when we don't have any authority. There's no boundaries, and we look to our passengers to make decisions that really should rely in a closed cockpit. We are not equal decision makers with our kid. And here's pilot three. Hey guys, I hear you screaming back there. There's a lot of turbulence, and by the way, if you want to keep screaming, scream away. I've been a pilot a number of years. I know we're going to get through this situation. I'm gonna stop this announcement right now and go back to doing my job, and I'll see you when we land at LAX. I understand you're upset, and your upset doesn't infiltrate my experience. I can hold my own experience separate from that.}]}```

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Account@callherdaddy
Posted (UTC)
Date (UTC)Sep 16, 2026
Duration169.9s
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